Glossaire
The words that keep coming up on this site, explained simply. These are my definitions, not a dictionary's.
- Aftercare
- The time taken after a session to come back down: talking, warming up, drinking, checking that everyone is okay. It matters as much as the session itself.
- BDSM
- An acronym covering bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism. A set of practices between consenting adults, negotiated in advance.
- Bondage
- Tying up or immobilizing a person with their consent: ropes, straps, handcuffs, lockable pieces. Learn more
- Chastity cage
- A device closed with a padlock that prevents any stimulation. The key is entrusted to another person. Learn more
- Catsuit
- A full-body, one-piece suit that covers the body from neck to ankles, sometimes including the hands, feet and head. Learn more
- Chastity
- The commitment to no longer have access to one's own pleasure without the consent of the person who holds the key. Learn more
- Collar
- Worn around the neck, it marks the submissive's belonging and place. Some are closed with a padlock.
- Consent
- The free, informed and reversible agreement of each person. It is given beforehand, can be withdrawn at any time, and nothing exists without it. Learn more
- Remote control
- Controlling a person's connected toys from another location, through an app. Learn more
- Dom, Domme
- The person in charge: they make the decisions, within the agreed framework, and bear responsibility for what happens. "Domme" is the feminine form.
- Electrostimulation (e-stim)
- Using a device that sends weak electrical pulses through the skin, from tingling to shock. Learn more
- Feminization
- Being dressed and presented as a woman as part of a role-play: clothes, wig, breasts, heels. Learn more
- Keyholder
- The person who holds the key to a chastity cage, literally or through an app: they alone decide on release.
- Latex
- A natural rubber material, thin and very tight-fitting, worn directly on the skin. It is polished to shine and requires careful care. Learn more
- Limites
- What a person refuses, without having to justify it. They are set before the session and are not up for debate during it. Learn more
- Lustrage
- Applying a product to latex to make it shine. A step in the dressing ritual.
- Safeword
- A word agreed in advance that immediately stops the session, no discussion. Learn more
- Plug
- A toy worn inside the body. Some models are connected and vibrate on command.
- Safe, sane and consensual
- The framework for everything mentioned here: practices freely chosen between adults, aware of the risks, that can stop at any time.
- Slave
- The submissive who has chosen to serve and obey, within a framework built with the person in charge. A chosen place, never an imposed one.
- Soumission
- Handing control over to another person, willingly and within agreed limits.
- Switch
- A person who can take either role, dominant or submissive, depending on the moment or the partner.