Frequently asked questions
Answers to the questions that come up most often: the site, how to contact me, safety and your data.
The site
Who is ShoSlave?
ShoSlave is a pseudonym. Behind it is an adult who shares their world here: latex, gas masks, bondage, chastity and submission. My identity stays private, and that is not negotiable.
Who is this site for?
Adults only: practitioners, the curious, or people who recognise themselves in this world. If you are under age, this site is not for you.
Do you sell anything or offer services?
No. This site is a personal notebook: no shop, no services, no subscription, no advertising. I do not promote any brand.
What is in "My gear" and in the blog?
The "My gear" section presents the equipment piece by piece: what it is, what it brings, how to look after it. The blog gathers more personal posts, published as they come.
What does the RTA label shown on the site mean?
RTA stands for "Restricted To Adults". It is a technical label placed on every page, which parental-control software recognises in order to block the site for minors.
Contact me
When are you available?
Usually from 11 pm to 6 am, Paris time (Europe/Paris time zone: UTC+1 in winter, UTC+2 in summer). The indicator at the top of every page shows whether I am available right now, and if not, when I will be back. Some nights I am unavailable.
How can I write to you?
Through the contact form at the bottom of the home page. A nickname and an e-mail address are enough: you do not have to give your real name.
How quickly do you reply?
I read everything, and I reply when I can, most often during my hours of availability. There is no guaranteed delay: please do not send repeated reminders.
Which messages do you not answer?
Commercial solicitations, requests for photos or private content, disrespectful or insistent messages, and any message from a minor.
Can you be controlled remotely?
Yes, for one night and within a framework agreed in advance: with Chastify (recommended) for chastity, or XToys to control connected devices. Everything goes through a request, which I am free to accept or not.
Is this a dating site?
No. A respectful exchange by message is possible, between adults, but this site is not meant for arranging meetings and nothing is promised beyond conversation.
Practices and safety
Are these practices dangerous?
Some carry real risks, in particular restraint and anything involving breathing. They are never improvised: clear agreement from everyone, an agreed safeword, and the presence of a trusted, trained and attentive person.
Are your texts advice or a how-to guide?
No. What I publish is a personal account, not a guide or medical advice. Do not reproduce anything without first learning from reliable sources and experienced people.
I am a beginner: where do I start?
With information and conversation, long before any gear: read, talk with experienced people, set out your limits and your wishes, agree on a safeword, then move forward slowly. There is no rush.
What does "safe, sane and consensual" mean?
It is the framework for everything described here: practices freely decided between adults, with knowledge of the risks, which can stop at any moment. Without clear consent, there is no play.
Privacy and how the site works
What do you do with my messages and my data?
They are used only to reply to you. Nothing is sold, shared or used for advertising, and you can ask for your message to be deleted at any time.
Are my messages protected?
Yes. Contact form messages and control requests are encrypted before being stored: the encryption key is kept in a digital vault separate from the site, and the stored data is unreadable without it. Exchanges with the site are themselves encrypted (HTTPS).
Does the site set cookies or track me?
No advertising trackers. Anonymous audience measurement is only enabled if you accept it in the banner; you can decline with no consequence.
Is the site written by an artificial intelligence?
Part of the site (texts, illustrations, code, English translation) may have been generated with the help of an AI, then reviewed and approved by me. You never talk to an AI: I am the one reading your messages.
How do I report content or a problem?
Write to me through the contact form, choosing the subject "Report" and stating the page concerned. I check and I correct.